Friday January 25, 2013
Dating for the digital generation
PERHAPS if you were single in the 1990s youíll remember all the fuss over The Rules, the cult phenomenon and dating bible that was referenced in TV series Sex In The City. The premise: play hard to get to achieve your happily-ever-after matrimony. Now authors Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider are giving their tome a fresh revision for the digital era.
Out this month internationally, The New Rules: The Dating Dos And Doníts For The Digital Generation, extends the retro mantra to the cyberworld with 31 new rules to help gals remain mysterious on social media, navigate the world of texting, and keep a man at an armís distance even while e-mailing.
Donít constantly update your Facebook status with mundane reports, and stay away from a manís Facebook profile, or at least never mention it to him. Wait at least four hours to reply to a manís text, and never after midnight. Avoid all texting, messaging, e-mail, and social media updates between 6pm on Friday and 6pm on Sunday. This apparently will drive the boys wild.
ďFor the rest of us, itís a welcome return to anonymity, to relinquishing the constant anxiety over whether you should be publicising how cool you are by tweeting your global positioning reference every time you enter a cool new bar or restaurant,Ē writes The Independent newspaper in Britain.
For those needing a primer as to how to become a ďRules Girl,Ē here are the basics:
1. Donít talk to a man first;
2. Donít stare or look at men, and donít talk too much;
3. Never spend your own money on a date, and let him travel to meet you;
4. Donít call him, ever, and only rarely return his calls;
5. Never accept a date on Saturday night if he asked you after Wednesday;
6. Always end the date first;
7. Stop dating him if he doesnít buy you presents (you, however, shouldnít buy him anything);
8. Only agree to see him once or twice a week.
While The Rules has legions of fans, and even Blake Lively and Beyoncť reportedly tried them (on Leonardo DiCaprio and Jay-Z respectively), others find them plain olí sexist.
ďThe writers of The Rules want women to believe that itís empowering to give up all their power,Ē write the ladies who run Jezebel.com.
They have some rules, too:
1. Be a person with a life.
2. Respect other people and their lives.
3. Be patient.
4. Donít be desperate. Ė AFP Relaxnews