I’M 33 years old and always seem to fail in my relationships. (I’ve had four failed relationships.) I’m sincere in loving them but they only toyed with me. I’m stressed, sad and depressed.

I want to to be in a successful and stable relationship which could lead to marriage in the future.

Do you know any website where I can meet sincere guys, who want a real relationship and not play around? Thank you.

Failure

Failing relationships may not be the problem. This is actually quite common. The problem arises when you find yourself making the same mistakes over and over again, and don’t learn from the failures.

Maybe you should think back and reflect on these failed relationships. What were the reasons for their failure?

You say they played with you. In what way? Could you have seen it happening and put a stop to it before it happened? Is there a trend in the kind of men you were with in these relationships?

It appears you may be in a rush to get into a relationship and marriage ... is it because of your age? This may be working against you. Rushing may lead you to make the wrong decisions. Also, it may cause you to be blind to some traits in the person or a potential relationship that may lead to heartache.

It is best you stop looking at the clock and start focusing on what you want out of a relationship. What characteristics are you looking for? What can you accept and what are out of bounds? Be extensive with your list. Chances are then you will have a clearer idea of what you don’t want and will be able to eliminate possible “players” before it’s too late.

Websites are a useful way for you to meet people. But, just remember that there is no such thing as a completely honest profile. People often play up these profiles in order to get more views, or to make themselves seem more interesting. There are also lots of “hidden” motives. You have to be careful and should take the necessary precautions before committing to someone.

A quick search on the Internet would bring up the most commonly used Internet dating sites. It may be safer to stick to these popular ones.

Also, available “literature” on this subject states that it is best – as it’s more likely to bring about success – if you post up profiles on more than one site. Spend some time on research and you are likely to see for yourself the better and more reputable Internet dating websites.

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