Friday October 19, 2012
Parents: They are stupid, disgraceful and selfish
PETALING JAYA: Stupid, disgraceful and selfish. These were words used by parents to describe how they felt about sex blog couple Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee.
A father of a 20-year-old girl even said he would castrate Tan if his daughter were the law student's girlfriend.
The reactions were not surprising and clearly underscored the different moral values of the older generation versus the younger ones.
“I would castrate him as I think what he has done is totally unacceptable.
“He is a bad influence on young people,” said media practitioner Warren Wong, 50.
MCA Complaints Bureau head Datuk Seri Michael Chong, who has handled numerous cases involving sexual impropriety, found the couple's posting of photos and videos of them having sex on a blog bizarre and described their actions as “stupid”.
“It brings shame to their families, relatives and friends. I feel very sorry for their parents. How are they going to face other people now?
“It is so disgraceful that I do not even want to see the pictures or watch the videos, even though some people have asked me to check them out,” said Chong, 64, a father of three daughters who are in their 20s.
He wondered if the couple were under the influence of drugs when they recorded and posted videos of their sexual acts because, “it is hard to believe that anyone with a sound mind would do such a thing”.
Datin Noor Azimah Abdul Rahim, a mother of four teenagers aged 14 to 19, said the blog brought humiliation to the couple's parents and would cause people to question their parenting methods.
“All parents raise their children with hopes that they will bring honour to the family.
“What Alvin and Vivian have done is shocking, and it is clear that they did not think about the consequences their actions will bring on their families,” said Noor Azimah, who is also the Parent Action Group for Education (PAGE) president.
Businessman Caleb Lee, 52, who has a teenage daughter and son, asked the couple to put themselves in their parents' shoes.
“As a parent myself, I cannot imagine how sad they must feel.
“If I ever meet Alvin and Vivian, I will ask them, If your roles with your parents were reversed, or if it were your parents who posted such pictures and videos, would you still be proud of what you did?'”
For some, no shame, just fame