Payengxa Lor relaxing at a hotel in Vientiane. - Laotian Times
VIENTIANE, March 24 (Laotian Times): In 2022, a young Hmong woman made history as the first person from her community to win the title of Miss Universe Laos. She then competed in Miss Universe where she was placed as one of the top 16 finalists from the 84 participants, setting a new record for her country.
The 21-year-old Payengxa Lor spoke to Laotian Times about her humble beginnings, what made her want to participate in beauty pageants, and how she wants to use her platform for social good.
Payengxa Lor is a difficult woman to get a hold of these days, what with an international pageant star’s busy itinerary, social commitments, and brand deals that have kept her ever-so-relevant.
Speaking between engagements in a posh Vientiane hotel lobby, she pauses briefly to take a phone call from her manager–he cannot be by her side and look over her busy schedule due to family illness. And yet she seems prepared for everything.
Payengxa Lor and her siblings when she was a child. - Laotian Times
“That’s alright, just take care of your family,” she tells him, seeming ready to handle the demands of her newfound stardom entirely independently.
Lightly made up, with hair styled to perfection, and wearing a splendid pink sinh, her demeanor embodies easy confidence and refined, timeless beauty. She engages graciously with passers-by who recognize her, and pause to ask for photos–but it has been a long and unlikely road for her to get to this point.
“I was born in Xaysomboun province but raised in a rural part of Khoune District, in Xieng Khouang province. My father was a provincial government officer and a farmer who sold pigs and crops to support his family. Because of our financial difficulty, it made me feel like I needed to work harder than other people,” says Payengxa.
Her vivid memory of the difficult rural lifestyle of rice and crop harvesting with her family is a reminder of her humble beginnings and how that paved the way for who she has become.
“It was very difficult. I had to help my family cultivate rice, bamboo, and vegetables to make a living. I recall the unfortunate year when our rice paddy was destroyed by pests, but we were able to survive because we also grew other crops,” says Payengxa.
While still in her teens, Payengxa’s parents began preparing her for an arranged marriage with a Hmong man she had never seen in person. They began to plan the wedding despite her reservations.
Payengxa Lor in a photo from her last year of high school in Xiang Khoung. - Laotian Times
“I tried to communicate online with this man my parents had set up for me in the United States. I wanted to please them so I talked to him for two years. But deep down I knew this was not what I wanted. I begged my father to cancel the engagement,” she says.
Payengxa informs that modern arranged marriages are still a reality for many Hmong women. Getting set up for marriage by one’s elders includes communicating with a potential partner via social media, with Hmong women in Laos contacted by Hmong men living abroad.
“My mother was married when she was fifteen, so it’s normal for my family to marry young. However, I pleaded with my father... I convinced him that I would achieve more if I could complete my education,” she says.
Despite difficult circumstances and disagreements with her family, Payengxa persevered in her studies. After graduating from high school in Xieng Khouang, she enrolled at the Lao-American College in Vientiane to further her education.
Payengxa’s introduction to beauty pageants was through her mother who took her to watch Hmong Beauty events when she was a child. She promised her mom that she would bring home the crown one day as well. And sure enough, in early 2019, she won her first beauty contest and was crowned Miss Hmong Vientiane.
“After winning the Miss Hmong Vientiane, I could see the positive impact it had on the representation of women in my community. It inspired me to become a role model for young women and to help them achieve their goals. However, winning the title did not provide me with much authority, so I decided to compete in the Miss Universe Laos pageant,” says Payengxa who was the first Hmong woman to apply to compete in the Miss Universe Laos contest.
“I knew that there had never been a woman from any of the ethnic minority groups in Laos enter – let alone win – this pageant. This was really special for me – it made me work that much harder for the crown,” she says.
After winning Miss Universe Laos, Payengxa gained thousands of followers and well-wishers overnight who understood the significance of a 21-year-old Hmong woman representing their country on a global stage. A sea of fans came to not just see her off at Wattay Airport but also welcome her with open arms at every city she visited in the US. There was even a traditional Baci ceremony held in her honor upon her arrival in Las Vegas.
Tonkham Phonchanhueang, Miss Universe 2019, crowned Miss Universe 2022 Payengxa Lor in October last year. - Laotian Times
Instead of letting the pressure of so many people’s expectations get to her, Payengxa let it bolster her confidence as she stood out in every round at the 71st Miss Universe Competition in New Orleans where she was one of the top 16 finalists, the first person from Laos to ever make it this far in the pageant.
“I couldn’t believe it! I was chosen in the first group of five finalists among all the beautiful women from 84 nations, one of which was Laos. That was a proud moment not only for me but for our whole country.”
As Miss Universe Laos 2022, Payengxa will continue with her university studies, as well as work on her own social enterprise ensuring food and water security to help her country achieve its sustainable development goals.
In a moment of life, coming full circle the young beauty queen and social entrepreneur, Payengxa has even published her first book, titled “Road to Miss Universe.”
“I feel, whatever you can have in your mind you can have in your hands–once you decide on something, it is up to you to make things happen for yourself,” she says.
Although success can be a malleable, slippery, and transient thing, Payengxa sure comes across as a beacon for young people dreaming of big things and making them come true through hard work and an innate confidence in oneself. - Laotian Times
